LESSON #29 - Budgeting (Your Very Last Assignment)
Planning for your financial future is important - it will allow you to achieve your financial goals - Wishing for stuff is not going to get you what you want - hard work and planning will. Watch the following video to understand what it means to budget.
ASSIGNMENT Come up with a thorough list of all the things you would need to take into account if you were creating a budget for yourself (living on your own or away from your parents). Your list should include all the things that would be categorized as "Fixed Expenses" and "Flexible Expenses".
Borrowing money is something that almost all of us will do in our lifetime. We may need to borrow money to buy a car, go on to post-secondary education, buy a house, etc.
One of the most common types of "loans" comes in the form of a Credit Card. A CREDIT card is different from a DEBIT card in several ways. Watch the link below to understand this difference.
Banks and Credit card companies are keen to loan money because along with the loan comes an extra charge called INTEREST. Interest is extra money in addition to what you have borrowed ... that is how the bank or credit card company continues to stay in business and make money. Mom and Dad may be willing to lend you money without charging interest, but a business will not. The RATE of interest charged on bank loans (used for car, schooling, etc.), mortgages ( used for houses) and credit cards can vary significantly.
It's important that when you do decide to borrow money that you have a plan to pay back. And, usually the faster you can pay it back the less it will end up costing you.
Where people often get into trouble with CREDIT cards is they spend and spend without thought of how they will be paying this money back. This can be a very costly mistake. Watch the video at the link below to understand the negative consequences of using a credit card and NOT paying it off each month. Not only can credit cards be incredibly costly, they can also limit your ability to borrow money in the future, if not used responsibly.
Lesson #27 - The Importance of being Financially Literate
The next few lessons will focus on $$MONEY$$ - to help you make smarter life decisions when it comes to your "now" and your future. Watch the following video found at the link below to see the difference that being financially responsible can make to your future. (Sorry, it's an American video but contains relevant info to us Canadians too :) Financial Literacy 101
ASSIGNMENT Create a chart of financially RESPONSIBLE / IRRESPONSIBLE actions (at least 5 of each, suggested in the video) that a person can take that will lead to financial SUCCESS / RUIN. (5 things that Penny Earned did that demonstrated financial responsibility and 5 things that Bill Owed did that demonstrated a lack of financial responsibility.)
Submit your assignment;
by sharing it with me on Office 365 OR
placing a hard copy in the Planning 10 folder in the office
Obviously, some jobs carry a higher risk to health than others, however, all work places must make the work environment as safe as possible for its employees. To learn about the roles, responsibilities and rights that employers and employees have, click the link below.
Read the information found under the "Employer" section as well as the "Worker" section.
Watch the following video by Worksafe BC that documents a terrible, but avoidable accident at work (just to warn you --- there are some very graphic scenes).
Write a paragraph that answers the following two questions using the information found under the Worksafe BC - Rights and Responsibilities (Employers and Workers sections);
1. What mistakes were made by Matthew's employers, that could have reduced the chance of this accident happening?
2. What mistakes did Matthew make that could have reduced the chance of this accident happening?
Submit your assignment;
by sharing it with me on Office 365 OR
placing a hard copy in the Planning 10 folder in the office
Yahoo!!! - you've gotten the job. As an employee what rights and responsibilities do you have? What are your employer's rights and responsibilities? In this lesson we will focus on the Employment Standards Act of BC and also look at common behavioural expectations that employers have of employees in a workplace setting. In Lesson #26, we will look at employee/employer rights and responsibilities in terms of Workplace Safety.
Part A - Employment Standards
Check out the following video to help you understand what the Employment Standards Act of BC is and the standards that it sets out for employers and employees.
Now watch the following TWO videos andread the fact sheet in order to better understand Employer/Employee rights... you will need to complete a quiz on this information as part of your assignment.
Hours of Work and Overtime Part B - Behavioural Expectations of Employees
It is important for you, as an employee, to present yourself in an appropriate manner while at work. The link below describes behaviours that will either contribute to your success or failure at a job. They are behaviours that will either impress or disappoint your employer. To some of you, they may seem small or insignificant but they make a BIG difference in the world of work.
B. Using examples from "Canadian Workplace Culture" and the "Front Desk First Impressions" Video, create a written scenario that demonstrates poor workplace behaviour using the worksheet found at the link below.
Lesson #24 - Interview Skills
You've approached some businesses, handed out resumes and cover letters and now you've been contacted to come for an interview. You're one step closer to getting a job. Now you have to make a good impression at the interview. Preparation is important. Spend some time thinking about the questions you may be asked and put together some well thought out answers. If you have an idea of what to expect, you'll feel more confident going into the interview and likely, do a better job at presenting yourself.
ASSIGNMENT (20 marks)
Here is a list of commonly asked questions at an interview.
1. Choose 5 questions from the list of "Common Interview Questions" and answer them as you would in an interview. You may choose to write up your answers and submit them or video yourself answering the questions. ***If you choose to video yourself, please ensure that I am able to receive the video through Office 365 OR email it to me at khoshizaki@sd19.bc.ca OR put it on a memory stick (with your name attached) and place it in my hands or in the folder at the office. The following is a list of things you should NEVER do in an interview. Poor Interview Behaviours
2. Choose 5 of these "never do" interview behaviours and for each one, describe WHY this wouldn't be appropriate --- what concerns might a potential employer have about you if you were to behave this way?
Submit your assignment by;
placing a hard copy in the Planning 10 folder in the office OR
Lesson #23 - Creating a Cover Letter
A COVER LETTER is a letter that accompanies your resume. It's your opportunity to promote yourself and set you apart from other applicants --- to allow your personality to shine through (whereas your resume is more objective and impersonal.)
A few guidelines when writing a cover letter:
Keep it to one page
Convey a confident, genuine, positive and enthusiastic attitude.
Tailor it to the position - focus on three personal qualities that make you an excellent candidate for the job.
Ensure there are no spelling or grammatical errors.
Type and format the letter correctly (use fullblock letter style, as shown in examples.) This is the format you should use with any formal letter (including any scholarship letters you may write in the future.)
Whenever possible, address the letter to a specific person (and make sure you spell their name correctly). If you don't know the specific name of the person, use "To Whom it May Concern".
If you provide a hard copy of the letter to your potential employer, ensure that you have signed the bottom (between the salutation and your typed name.)
Your cover letter should consist of three paragraphs;
First Paragraph: State the reason for your letter and the position you are applying for. Where did you hear about the job and why are you interested in the position?
Second Paragraph: This paragraph answers the question: "Why should I hire you?" Highlight the most relevant skills, knowledge and experience that are applicable to the position. When possible, include some of your own research about the company or organization.
Third Paragraph: Thank the employer for their time and consideration. State that you are looking forward to hearing from them.
Create a COVER LETTER that you could include as part of your application for ONE of the examples of job postings at the following links; Job Posting Example 1 Domino's Pizza Job Posting Example 2 Canadian Tire Job Posting Example 3 Thrifty's Foods Please submit your assignment;
by placing a hard copy in the Planning 10 folder in the office OR
Lesson #22 - Building a Resume A resume is an organized document that tells a potential employer about you and your skills, qualities and experiences, etc that make you a desirable employee. It is meant to provide insight into who you are and what type of employee you might be. It's an employer's first introduction to you so it needs to look and sound impressive.
There are many different formats that can be used and it's ok to make your resume unique - as long as it looks organized and easy to read. Typically, you should include the following information:
Your Contact Information - Name, Address, City, Province, Postal Code, Email address and Phone Number
Objective - a statement outlining your specific employment goal
Work Experience - dates of past jobs and descriptions of your tasks and responsibilities.
Volunteer Experience - similar to the way you listed your work experience.
Education - include education, training and other certificates.
Skills and Accomplishments - strong skills (Employability Skills - reflect back on Lesson #16) that you have that will be beneficial in the job you are applying for and accomplishments that demonstrate qualities that you have.
Hobbies and Interests - this section allows the employer a glimpse into your personality.
References - contact information of people who have witnessed your skills and can vouch for your character.
Other things to consider:
begin with a general resume and then tailor it for specific jobs
ideally your resume should be ONE page with an absolute maximum of two pages
you MUST type your resume
make sure there are NO spelling or grammar errors and the format is consistent throughout
ensure that your contact information (i.e. email address) is appropriate
your resume is a work in progress and should be continually updated as you gain education, experience and skills, etc.
Let's go through each section and provide some examples:
1. CONTACT INFORMATION
Example:
Leslie Knickerbocker
1122 Orange Lane
Revelstoke, BC
V0E 2S0
(250) 814-0000
lknickerbocker@telus.net
2. OBJECTIVE
Example 1: To obtain a job as a cashier at a grocery store.
Example 2: With strong writing skills, international volunteer experience and a drive to succeed, I am seeking a challenging internship at a dynamic advertising agency that values and engages its employees.
3. WORK EXPERIENCE AND VOLUNTEER EXPERIENCE
Start by listing your most recent and working back chronologically. Provide company (organization) name, your job title, dates of employment (or volunteer work) and a description of your tasks and responsibilities - organized using point form (bullets). Begin each description with an action word (see link below for an extensive list of action words.)
Cashier, SAVE-ON FOODS GROCERY STORE, Revelstoke, BC
Operated check-out and rang through groceries.
Assisted customers.
Collected money and distributed change.
Performed bagging duties.
Example 2:
September 2017 - February 2018
Mentor, REVELSTOKE SECONDARY SCHOOL MENTORSHIP PROGRAM, Revelstoke, BC
Planned and participated in various after school activities with grade 5 student (crafts, cooking, board games, basketball, etc)
Modelled appropriate social behaviour
4. EDUCATION
Include your area of study, school (organization) name and the completion date. Start by listing your highest level of education. Remember to include any special training and certificates earned if you feel they could be relevant or helpful on the job.
Example 1:
Grade 12 Graduate - Revelstoke Secondary School, June 2017
Example 2:
Standard First Aid and CPR Certificate - Canadian Red Cross - August 2017
5. SKILLS AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS
List any skills/accomplishments you are proud of or an employer may see as beneficial.
Example 1: (Accomplishments)
Principals Honor Roll - Revelstoke Secondary School - grades 8-12
PERC Card recipient - Revelstoke Secondary School - grades 8-12
Recipient of the "Citizenship" Award - Revelstoke Secondary School - June 2015
Example 2: (Employability Skills)
Ability to problem solve
Computer savvy
Honest and reliable
Excellent listening skills
Willingness to learn and accept feedback
Strong teamwork skills
Enjoy working with a diverse group of people
6. HOBBIES AND INTERESTS
Example:
Reading
Horseback Riding
Sailing
Photography
7. REFERENCES
Example:
John Smith
Manager, SAVE-ON-FOODS, Revelstoke, BC, (250) 837-0000 or jsmith@sofrevelstoke.com
ASSIGNMENT (20 marks)
OK - now its your turn to put your RESUME together. It needs to be PERFECT - or you will be asked to redo it. There are zillions of template examples on line or if you have Microsoft WORD - under "File", click on "New from Template" and search up "Resume" - it also will provide you with many examples.
Here's one example to get you started: (Personally, I like the look of this but feel more information should be added to the "Work Experience" section.)
Lesson #21 = Your Career and the Labour Market Outlook in BC
Now that we've considered some possible careers, let's look to see if there's a good chance of finding a job (in BC) once your completed your education.
ASSIGNMENT (10 marks)
Using the WorkBC website by clicking on the link below;
Now that you have investigated a career that interests you and the schooling required for that career - it's time to plan for the rest of your time at high school. This involves looking ahead at the courses you will take to meet the requirements for graduation and any post-secondary training/education you plan to attend. If you are not planning to attend post-secondary, choose courses that will help you develop the skills necessary for the type of job you plan to do.
ASSIGNMENT (10 marks)
Using the school website, look through the courses offered at RSS, found at the following link.
Print off the Grad Plan template found at the link below. Required courses for graduation are already listed for you. For some, you will need to make a choice - please indicate your choice on the sheet. You will also need to choose electives. Complete the sheet by filling in the courses you are taking this year and those that you plan to take during grades 11 and 12. Read the bullets below to ensure that you fill in the Grad Plan properly AND the courses you select meet all the Grad requirements.
In places where multiple choices are available e.g.; Science 11 - make sure you only select one course in that box - if you want to take other courses from that category, place them in the "elective" sections.
In order to meet the Graduation requirements, at least 4 of your courses must be designated Grade 12 level courses. Ensure that you have English 12 or Communications 12 and at least 3 others.
Another Grad requirement is that you have at least one elective course during grade 10, 11 or 12 that is considered either a FINE ART or APPLIED SKILL. An example of a fine arts course would be; Band, Drama, Art, etc. An example of an applied skills course would be; Tech Ed, Foods, Woodwork, etc. Make sure your Grad plan includes at least one of these types of courses.
If you have extra (more than 8 courses in a year or off-timetable courses e.g; Jazz) or external credits (e.g; Musical, Athletic, First Aid, Coaching, Cadets) you can include these in "Extra courses and Credits" section.
Add up the credits for each grade and then add grade 10, 11 and 12 together to ensure you have enough to graduate (a minimum of 80). Do you have the courses you need to apply to the post-secondary program you are hoping to enter?
Of course what you choose for the purpose of this assignment is not written in stone. I know that you may change your mind, but this lesson is meant to help you understand what is required for graduation as well as help you plan for your future.
You may hand in your completed "Grad Plan" by either;
placing a copy in the Planning 10 folder in the office OR
Hopefully Lesson #17 & #18 have given you some ideas as to careers that may interest you ---- or perhaps you already had some idea of what you want to do when you "grow up". Regardless of how certain you are or aren't about your future career, this lesson will provide you with some resources to help you navigate the world of post-secondary education.
If you have already decided on a career area, obviously you will research this area. If you haven't, pick a program that you are interested in finding more about.
ASSIGNMENT (15 marks)
Use the following links to investigate what post-secondary schools (one for BC, one for Alberta) offer programs that relate to your chosen future occupation.
If you are interested in attending a post secondary institution that is not located in either of these provinces, feel free to research other sites, universities and colleges.
For the purpose of this assignment you need to investigate TWO different post-secondary institutions that offer your career choice.
Education Planner ALBERTA Please provide the following information:
-You may need to spend some time navigating the site to find this information.
-You may use the template found at the link below to organize your information.
Remember Lesson #4 where you were asked to do a "Myers-Briggs Jung Personality Test"? You were assigned 4 LETTERS - either I or E, N or S, F or T, and P or J. Well - when it comes to careers - some lend themselves better to certain personality types. Click on the following link to find careers that may suit your personality. (Please keep in mind that these are just suggestions - this is not scientifically proven - it just shows trends - it is meant to get you started looking at careers and not "determine" your career path).
Have a look at the "poster" - it provides quite a bit of interesting information. To the right of the poster, click on the link that says "Discover Careers". Scroll down until you find the four letters that describe your personality type, click on this - investigate careers that might interest you. Use the information to complete the following assignment.
ASSIGNMENT (10 marks)
1. Suggest 2 careers that are recommended for your personality type. Explain what it is about your personality that lends itself well to each career.
2. Do either of these careers seem like something that might interest you? Why or why not?
"Choose a job you love and you'll never have to work a day in your life." Confucius
Choosing a job is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life. Although, the chance of you changing your occupation throughout your lifespan is high, life will be better if you work at things you enjoy.
In this lesson, we are going to look at careers that match your interests. The following link will ask you to complete a survey that will suggest a "career cluster" for you - an area that you might enjoy working in.
ASSIGNMENT (10 marks) 1. Take the survey - what career cluster was recommended for you according to your results?
2. Give 5 examples of jobs that fit into this career cluster.
3. Is this a career field that interests you? Why or why not?
This half of Planning 10 will focus on Employability, Career and Finances. A lot of what you learn, and the assignments you do, can be used for your future Grad Transitions (a 4 credit requirement for Graduation).
Let's start by looking what is meant by the term; employability skills. In order to do a job well you need both specific skills and training (hard skills) and people skills (soft skills). The following video quickly defines the difference between Hard skills and Soft skills.
The link below shows a list of employability skills - "skills you need to enter, stay in, and progress in the world of work -whether you work on your own or as a team."
2. What rating did you receive for each category of the employability skills quiz?
3. If you were to interview for a job, one of the most common interview questions is: "What are your greatest strengths?". If you were just focussing on your "soft skills" - what would you say to this question in an interview setting, if you only had 1 minute to answer this question?
REFLECTION ACTIVITY #3 -Your Habits.
Hi There: Well, this is it - your last assignment for the first half of Planning. I hope that you have found some benefit to this course and these assignments - that it hasn't been an exercise in "hoop-jumping". I remember the first time I read the "7 Habits" book - I learned so much and it all made so much sense - that's why I based this half of the course on them. GOOD LUCK with it all - may the HABITS that you develop be EFFECTIVE and bring you much happiness, health and success both in your personal and work life!!! ASSIGNMENT - (20 marks) Now that you have developed an understanding of the 7 Habits - it's time to reflect on where YOU are at with each of the 7 Habits. Please complete the Reflection Assignment found at the link below.
Let's use a few videos to learn more about each of the 4 dimensions of health. I found this great group of videos by "Wellcast" - they're fairly short but have lots of good info in them.
The Physical and Mental Dimension - The BODY and the BRAIN.
The Emotional Dimension - The HEART
The Spiritual Dimension
ASSIGNMENT - (20 marks) There are two parts to this assignment. You may use the assignment template found at the link below.
a) Check out the full assortment of "Wellcast" videos (there's 147 to choose from) on YouTube. Choose 3 (different from the ones I've chosen for the lesson) that interest you. Provide me with the title of the video and a brief summary about what you learned from it.
b) For EACH of the 4 dimensions of health - I want you to come up with 5 activities that YOU would take part in (at home, at school, in our community, in nature) to re-energize yourself in each of the different dimensions.
To help you reflect on Habits #1, #2 and #3, I chose the movie, "Rudy" and asked you to complete an assignment on it. Now, to show me that you understand the concepts found in Habits #4, #5 and #6, you will choose a movie that you believe demonstrates these concepts. The movie you choose should be about building relationships in order to achieve a common group goal that could not have been achieved alone.
ASSIGNMENT(20 marks)
1. Name of the movie.
2. Brief summary of the movie.
3. Three paragraphs (one for each habit) that describes how the movie related to the concepts found in a) Habit #4 - Think Win-Win, b) Habit #5 - Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood and c) Habit #6 - Synergize.
Please submit your assignment via;
a) Office 365
b) Email
c) The Planning 10 folder in the office.
LESSON #11 - SYNERGY "None of us is as smart as all of us." (Ken Blanchard)
Habits 4, 5 &6 have all been about your relationship with others. Habit #4 was about having the right attitude to make good connections. Habit #5 discussed healthy ways of communicating to strengthen those connections. Habit #6 is about using those connections to achieve more as a group than you ever could as an individual. This habit is about achieving synergy.
1. Check out the synergy that is being achieved in the following video.
2. Read pages 182-201 in your "7 Habits" book.
3. Print off and complete the Habit #6 Note sheet as you read. You may need to finish reading through the blog to be able to define all the aspects of synergy.
4. Let's look more at each of the 4 factors involved in achieving synergy.
a) Celebrating differences: consider this quote:
"If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary." (Larry Dixon)
Sometimes, it is only when we come up against differences that we are forced to question our way of thinking. If we want to achieve more than we could on our own - we must appreciate different perspectives and opinions. We must look beyond our own way of thinking and doing.
b) Teamwork: Teamwork means that everyone brings their own unique ideas, skills and characteristics to the group and uses them to work towards achieving a common goal. It also means being a good team member - having a positive attitude, being reliable, focussed and cooperative.
"Individual commitment to a group effort - that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work. (Vince Lombardi)
c). PracticingOpen Mindedness: Being open minded means to truly open your mind and consider new information, ideas and ways of doing something WITHOUT judgement. It DOES NOT mean agreeing with everything - but give your brain a chance to stretch and consider a different perspective. This is an important skill when brainstorming.
"A mind is like a parachute. It doesn't work if is not open." (Frank Zappa)
d). Creative Problem Solving: This starts with both defining the problem and then believing that a solution is possible. It can take time and patience. It's really important that everyone in the group listens to one another and each person has the chance to contribute. Brainstorming is an important part of creative problem solving. Sometimes ideas that seem "crazy" at first, can morph into brilliant workable solutions. Eventually the group must come to a decision about how to solve the problem. Consensus, when possible, is an excellent way to agree on a solution.
"We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them." (Albert Einstein)
5. ASSIGNMENT (20 marks) - time to put what you've learned to practice... Please click on the link below to get your assignment. a) Synergy Assignment
b) Print off and complete the self-assessment of your "synergy" skills using the rubric found at the following link.
LESSON #3 (10) - COMMUNICATION "SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD"
If we have made "Think Win-Win" a habit, then this next habit will be much easier to achieve. In order for the other person to "win" you will need to find out what they want/need, and in order for you to "win", you will have to share what you want/need. Therefore, communication is necessary and important to good relationships. Stress and dysfunction in relationships are often the result of poor communication. Since the Public Victory is about building healthy relationships with others, how can we become better communicators? (prepare yourselves - this is one of the longer lessons...)
1. Check out the video below. How much simpler would this situation have been if each "person" had asked about the other's intentions and communicated their thoughts rather than making assumptions?
When you hear the word, "communication", do you imagine someone speaking or silently listening? Most of us likely imagine speaking, but the KEY to communication is in understanding the other person. When both people seek to understand - communication just works better.
Seek First to Understand - We will start be examining the most important aspect of communication ... LISTENING.
2. Read pages 164-178 of your "7 Habits" book.
3. Print off the Communication Note sheet and fill it in as you read.
4. "the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are..." (7 Habits, p. 165)
So how do we achieve this? Let's take a closer look at GENUINE LISTENING. By practicing the following 3 things, we can improve our listening skills and therefore, our ability to understand others.
a. Listen with your eyes, heart and ears. Since words only account for 7% of the message, we need to practice listening better with our eyes and heart - what is the person's body language telling us?
Simply being aware of the importance of body language is a step towards becoming a better listener.
Try the quiz found at the following link.
b. Stand in their shoes. This means to listen with EMPATHY. Empathy is the ability to put yourself in someone else's situation and understand and share his/her feelings.
Brene Brown is a prominent researcher in this area. In this short video, she explains the difference between SYMPATHY and EMPATHY.
c. Mirroring. When we mirror, it's vey important to reflect back, not only the meaning of what has been said, but also the feelings of the person. This lets the person know that we have heard and understood them correctly.
Look at the worksheet found at the following link. What feelings do you think are being communicated in each of the examples? Write an appropriate response that reflects back both meaning and feelings for TWO of the examples.
Then to be Understood - the other half of communication...... SENDING MESSAGES
5. Read pages 178-179 in your "7 Habits".
If we want others to understand us better, it is important that we keep the lines of communication OPEN. There are common mistakes that people can make when they are trying to communicate during times of stress and/or emotion. These mistakes can cause the lines of communication to CLOSE between people and create negative feelings that weaken relationships.
6. Read through each of the "Communication Blockers" found at the link below.
Can you relate? Are you guilty of using any of these "blockers" in your interactions with others? Do you recall a time when someone used one of these against you? I'm sure you remember how it made you feel. Often, your immediate reaction is to defend yourself by getting angry or withdrawing to avoid further discomfort. If this happens what can you do to repair the relationship? ... especially if the relationship is really important to you? Read on.
7. Someone may have said or done something that offended you. You want to keep the lines of communication open. What can you do to stick up for yourself or share your concerns but be respectful of the other person at the same time? Your best shot may be to use something called an"I" Statement.
An "I" Statement does three things:
1. It allows you to take responsibility for your feelings WITHOUT blaming the other person. (Remember Habit #1 - Be proactive, rather than reactive?)
2. It focusses on the problem WITHOUT attacking the person. (Hopefully by doing this the other person won't react defensively and the lines of communication will remain OPEN).
3. It provides the person you are speaking to with a lot of helpful information. (A better understanding of how you feel and why.)
Complete the "I" Statement worksheet at the following link.
8. ASSIGNMENT (20 marks) - Watch the following clip from the movie, "The Break Up". In this clip we see a conversation between two people escalate into a fight. Let's use this example to reflect on what we've learned about communication. Please complete the assignment by answering the following questions.
1. a). At what point in this scene do you think the lines of communication broke down and CLOSED?
b) What could have been done just before this point to keep the lines of communication OPEN?
2. Using the information you have learned in this lesson, explain, in some detail, three communication "mistakes" (for example: poor listening styles, communication blockers, etc.) that inflamed and/or escalated this situation. Describe a) the mistake, b) who made it and c) what it resulted in.
3. Once Gary and Brook have had a chance to cool down - what is an "I message" that each of them could say to the other that would explain a) how he/she feels, b) what the other person did and c) why that was hurtful. (Take some time to think about this - what was each of them really upset about? - dig passed the surface and try to see the real issues and emotions by using what you have learned about "genuine" listening). Write one message that Gary could say to Brook and another that Brook could say to Gary.
OK - so we've established that relationships matter. If the relationships in our life are healthy, we are likely to experience more success and happiness throughout our lives. This lesson looks at the type of attitude needed to have strong relationships (and those attitudes that lead to unhealthy relationships).
Let's start off with a cute video that demonstrates a few of the attitudes we'll be looking at.
3. The attitude you have within your relationships can often show up during a conflict. Conflict is a part of life. It exists as a reality of any relationship, and is
not necessarily bad. In fact, a relationship with no apparent conflict may be
unhealthier than one with frequent conflict. Conflicts are critical events that
can weaken or strengthen a relationship.
They can be productive; creating deeper understanding, closeness and
respect, or they can be destructive, causing resentment, hostility and divorce.
How the conflicts get resolved, not how many occur, is the critical factor in
determining whether a relationship will be healthy or unhealthy, mutually
satisfying or unsatisfying, friendly or unfriendly, deep or shallow, intimate
or cold. Conflicts run all the way from minor unimportant differences to
critical fights. There are conflicts over needs, wants, preferences, interests,
opinions, beliefs and values. (Taken
from a website by; Larry Alan Nadig, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, Marriage and
Family Therapist) This video is an advertisement but has some good information in it so I think it's worth checking out.
Everyone has numerous ways of
dealing with conflict. However,
each of us has a preferred style. In
the best interest of your relationships, it is important to be aware of yourconflict style.
4. The following “quiz” will help
you to determine your most common style. Take and score the quiz - it may be easiest to print it off first.
c) Of the 4 attitudes we looked at in your "7 Habits" book, which one is most closely related to your style?
d) If you were in a conflict with someone, which conflict style would cause you the most frustration? Why?
e) If you were in a conflict with someone, which style would you prefer to be in a conflict with? Why?
f) Consider this quote below and then answer the question: Why is it important, to the health of a relationship, for people to be aware of their conflict styles?
“Solving conflict is easier when we don’t need to worry about winning or losing but only in meeting everybody’s needs.”
Please submit your assignment by sharing it with me on Office 365.
